HOW LONG HAVE YOU BEEN DOING WHAT YOU DO, AND HOW DID YOU BECOME A SUCCESS MINDSET & EMPOWERMENT COACH?
To answer this question, it’s probably best that I share with you a defining moment, and a resulting “compelling story”, that brought me to where I am today – coaching people like you on exactly what to do to speak their truth, kick their fears to the curb and live the life they want or run the business they’ve always dreamed of. That defining moment in my life happened in 2010.
Before I had that “Aha” moment it’s important you understand what led me to that moment. When I was 22, I made a decision that my husband of 2 years and I would divorce. After not hearing from him for the night, he rolled into the house at 5am took a shower and went to work without saying a word. Our 1 year old son and I woke up and went about our day as usual until I noticed our bank account overdrawn. I was baffled as it was Friday morning and we always both had our direct deposits that morning. I then spoke with the bank who advised me that there were many “ATM charges at a “gentlemen’s club” which caused our account to over drafted. After discussing this with my husband that night, he decided to proclaim to me that he had also been cheating on me, with our babysitter, my friend. The most gut wrenching feeling came over me. I was just out with this woman and another friend and they were both hinting to me that I should considering leaving my husband. My response was, I know he’s an asshole but he would NEVER cheat on me. Ugh.
My next step was divorce and I would never look back. I would take myself and my one year old son and I would make it, I’m a survivor, I’m resourceful and I told myself “I can and I will do this.”
When I began dating again, I fell into the world of Skydiving. For the next 13 years I would flow in and out of 3 long term relationships, with adrenaline addicted men who were emotionally unavailable or verbally & emotionally abusive, drug users, drinkers, and gas lighters. From a young age I learned that “I need a man” to make it financially on my own, and I felt the need of having someone in my life that cared about me. So having these men in my life were a way to keep me financially afloat, just getting by and barely making it while I worked full time, raised my son, and continued working on my bachelor degree. I was preparing the day when the relationship ends, so I would be able to make it on my own, finally.
In 2003 my boyfriend was moving to Hawaii for his career. I never thought I would go, until he asked and emphatically I said yes. I had just bought a house, 9 months prior, but I decided to rent it out and pack all my belongings in one large shipping container and GO!
Living there for those years was amazing, until it wasn’t. My boyfriend began not coming home, not calling and traveling without having me join him. The last 6 months I was there was emotional torture and pure heart wrenching hell. I knew something was wrong, I would ask, but he would never say. My gut was telling me to speak up for myself and say what I felt – to stand up for myself for once! I didn’t and I couldn’t. I was drained, emotionally, physically and just defeated. I cried, worked, went to yoga every day, focused on eliminating things from my diet. I ran myself super skinny, focused on my son and tried to figure out what about ME was making him treat me this way. 3 months later I finally gained the courage and felt good enough about myself to stand up and speak my truth, I had enough, I wanted change, and I wasn’t being a martyr or a victim of this relationship any more. I made the choice to sell or donate everything I owned and moved my son and myself back home to Florida with 6 suitcases.
After escaping the cheat, narcissistic boyfriend, I couch surfed for nine months while I was working full time and continued working toward getting my bachelor’s degree – until my renters could find another place to live.
I LOVED THE IDEA OF BEING FREE AGAIN, OF GETTING OUT OF A CONTROLLING RELATIONSHIP. I LOVED THE IDEA OF SPEAKING UP FOR MYSELF. BUT HERE I WAS, NOT EVEN BEING TRUTHFUL WITH MY RENTERS.
The only thing I knew how to do really well was work to pay the bills and be present in my son’s life. But I hated the work I was doing, was tired of one long bad relationship after another and ready to be done. Eventually I moved back into my home, with my son and new next ex-boyfriend. The boyfriend like the others was amazing; at first. It took only a few months to get the true colors.
One night, at 2am, I am in bed with my fingers in my ears, pillow over my head trying to block out a different crazy boyfriend! I’d thrown his crap out of my house for the fifth time but he came back like a bad yo-yo. The universe was screaming at me to get rid of this guy, what are you waiting for! Meanwhile, I’m overthinking this shitty relationship and trying to decide whether this was my “path” instead of fricking following my own truth – to dump these crazy, controlling guys and stand in my own power.
HOW WILL I EVER BREAK FREE OF THESE BAD RELATIONSHIPS WHERE GUYS CHEAT ON ME, STEAL MY HARD EARNED MONEY AND MAKE ME FEEL LIKE SHIT WHEN I KNOW I AM BETTER THAN THIS AND DESERVE MORE!?”
All I kept saying to myself was: “How did my life end up like this?! How did I end up at 30 years old, living with another controlling asshole narcissist who’s secretly stealing every bit of energy I have and won’t move out of my home? I finally had enough and knew the end was near, so at the most awful time, the most truthful words flew out of my mouth before I could stop them. I said, “I am done! I deserve to be happy, you deserve to be happy.” “I don’t want to marry you and have your children.” “We can’t make each other happy, it’s time to end this and move on.”
FOR THE FIRST TIME WHEN I JUST CAME CLEAN AND SPOKE FROM MY HEART I BROKE FREE.
I made a decision right then and there that I was going to stand in my truth, commit to myself, and create the life of MY dreams, even if it kills me! I made the commitment to immerse myself in absolutely everything that had to do with success, mindset, manifesting, intuition, and creating an abundant life and business.
I got into the law of attraction, energy work, massage, teaching yoga and quit my high paying sales job, went to India to get clarity, got a business mentor, and opened my first successful business in 2009. I started making over $500 a day, creating my own schedule, having time with my family and working on my own terms. What a transformation! I knew I was onto something huge. I set my intention to follow my heart, my passion and my personal joy. I began to focus on visualizing my success, speaking it into existence and working to release past wounds and eradicate seeds of doubt that sometimes came up. I took my studies to many world renown teachers. I traveled as far as India to clear up my past and create the life and business of my dreams. My confidence & income continued to soar to heights I never dreamed of! I felt like a snowball rolling downhill just picking up speed and snow into this never ending hill, getting larger and larger to this unlimited potential.
I MANIFESTED THE MAN OF MY DREAMS, MARRIED HIM AND WE HAVE AN AMAZING LIFE TOGETHER. WE LITERALLY SAY WE’RE “LIVING THE DREAM!” THIS IS NOW MY LIFE!
I started to work with all types women who yearned for a life they dreamed of or business that gives them purpose but no idea how to get there. I watched their lives transform from their renewed confidence and clarity, their fears dissolve and their health and vitality return. They gained freedom from past choices. They were able to stand in their truth, create an action plan for their lives, and commit to themselves to create the life of their dreams doing what they love.
I HAVE SINCE MADE A COMMITMENT TO DEDICATE THE REST OF MY PROFESSIONAL LIFE TO HELPING WOMEN CREATE A FULL LIFE OF JOY, FREEDOM AND INDEPENDENCE, TO BREAKTHROUGH THEIR INNER BLOCKS, MAKE MORE MONEY AND HAVE THE FREEDOM TO CREATE THE LIFE AND OR BUSINESS THEY’VE ALWAYS DREAMED OF.
Since then, I’ve worked with many private clients, spoken in front of countless groups: I lived my dream of limitless travel to over 20 countries while mentoring women like you and making a very good living while living life on my own terms. I have created The Commanded Life Academy and my Signature program, Unleash your Wealth, Health and be Unstoppable in 90 days! Positive Powerful Proven ways to speak your best life into being.
Every woman who has EVER been limited in their life by fear, anxiety, self sabotage, self doubt, the unknown, MONEY!!, a stifling relationship, friends or family who just drag you down, people trying to stifle your dream, anger or resentment for yourself and everyone who doesn’t believe in you or your dream, feelings of being stuck or trapped in a situation/job/career that you have totally outgrown, outdated beliefs, beliefs passed on to you by family that just aren’t true for you, traditions, fear of change, other people’s success, just not feeling good enough or worthy to have EVERYTHING you want!
I HAVE CREATED MY SIGNATURE PROGRAM UNLEASH YOUR WEALTH, HEALTH AND BE UNSTOPPABLE IN 90 DAYS! POSITIVE POWERFUL PROVEN WAYS TO SPEAK YOUR BEST LIFE INTO BEING.
The exact steps on how I created the life I NEVER DREAMED POSSIBLE. This program is very specific to guide you to do what it takes, step by step to identify your blocks, barriers and beliefs that have kept you in this cycle, banish them from your life, and create entire new mindsets around WHAT IS POSSIBLE! We will create your future, together by teaching you my secret sauce to what has driven me to marrying the man of my dreams, creating a 6 figure income, and traveling the world.
CELEBRATE YOUR WIN!! WASH, RINSE, REPEAT!
I AM LUCKY TO HAVE HAD JOY AS A MENTOR AND ROLE MODEL – HER ENCOURAGEMENT, ADAPTABILITY AND POSITIVE INFLUENCE HAVE MADE A BIG DIFFERENCE IN MY CAREER!
Working with Joy has been a motivating experience. We have worked together for 6 years now and she has been cheering me on since the beginning. I was a recent graduate when our paths first crossed, which led to a lack of certainty with my abilities and knowledge when diving into the workplace. Joy encouraged me and helped me accept that though I have many skills, I should focus on what I excel at and continue to build in those areas. I have embraced the variety of skills I have and concentrate on the ones that make myself and my clientele happy.
I am not someone who typically embraces change. Joy has helped me see that change is positive. It’s not getting rid of tried-and-true methods, but about growth and bettering yourself; in knowledge and in keeping current with your industry. By being more fluid to change, I am intrigued by new ideas, techniques and opinions in the workplace. I enjoy learning and including newly acquired skills in my repertoire.
Joy’s overall positivity and adaptability are a big part of her effect on the people around her. In life, as well as in business, things don’t always go as planned. Joy’s ability to think on her feet is something I’ve learned partially through observation. I have been able to put this into practice when dealing with spur-of-the-moment situations that need immediate attention.
I am lucky to have had Joy as a mentor and role model since I enter the working world. Her encouragement, adaptability and positive influence have made a big difference in my career. I continue to love what I do and grow in my industry. I am happy to be at my place of work where I can make a difference and hopefully help others in the way Joy has helped me.
~Charlie Alicia Ayala
JOY PUSHES ME PAST MY HOLDUPS – I TRUST HER TO HELP ME CREATE THE BEST SOLUTIONS FOR MYSELF!
Joy listens to the challenges I am having and helps me uncover solutions for my health
She often pushes me past my holdups/not trusting myself.
I trust her to help me create the best solutions for myself, and I feel comfortable around her, because she respects my privacy. It’s never about the money, it’s always about helping me become the best I can and pushing through my barriers where I didn’t think possible.
JOY IS AN EXCELLENT MENTOR. I LOVE MY CAREER AND WILL CONTINUE TO GROW MY BUSINESS BECAUSE OF HER SUPPORT!
When I met Joy have grown even more than when I had my own business in South Florida. I just moved to a new area. I had limited business offerings, and I had previously been successful in my own business, but I moved and had to start over from scratch. She is an excellent mentor. I love my career and will continue to grow my business because of her support. She is successful in business and she has helped me to grow to become as successful as her. I will always continue to grow and be successful. I love working with Joy because she wants you to grow and become successful. I choose to work with her because we have same goals and all I want to do is educate myself and grow in finances to be successful. And only surround myself with only positive successful people.